David Robert Frei

10/18/1964 - 08/30/2023


Obituary For David Robert Frei

David Robert Frei of Kirkwood, MO passed away on August 30th, 2023 after a long and courageous battle with ALS. He was born on October 18th, 1964 to Robert and Frances of Kirkwood, MO. David was surrounded, to the very last, by the undying love and company of family and friends.

As the youngest of four boys, he learned the resourcefulness and vigor needed for any family runt to keep up with much older brothers. It would be a trait that would mark his entire life. In his hobbies, work, conversations, and relationships - Dave approached it all with a singular genius and conviction. He balanced these gifts with an equally gentle and humble spirit, capturing the trust of all around him.

Dave was an elite and fierce competitor in Adventure Racing, Orienteering, Mountain Biking, and any other activity that drew him to the natural world. Through these activities, he forged a tight circle of friends, where he would even meet his future wife.

In 2017, David married the love of his life, Mary Piper, and extended that love to stepchildren Kieran, Shannon, and Abigail. While it was a new venture for Dave to be stepfather, he discovered great meaning and purpose in it.

Dave was an essential contributor to the success of the Emil Frei Stained Glass studio for nearly thirty years, serving as Vice President for most of that time. His ingenuity and work ethic blessed many churches throughout the country.

Perhaps one of Dave’s greatest gifts to us all was his model in encountering suffering. After a diagnosis with ALS in 2016, David endured gradual limitations to his considerable physical skills. While this could have caused bitterness, it opened new doors for David that edified us all. He began recording the many stories of a beautiful life in a blog. His time spent with us was more poignant, more thoughtful, more precious.

He is survived by his wife Mary of six years, stepchildren Kieran, Shannon, and Abigail; brothers Stephen, Mark, and Christopher; and many nieces and nephews.

A Memorial gathering at Bellefontaine Cemetery, Hotchkiss Chapel Plaza in St. Louis, MO, will be held at 1 p.m. on Thursday, September 7, with burial immediately following. All are welcome.

There will also be a Memorial Celebration on Friday, September 8, at 6 p.m. at the Scout Pavilion in Kirkwood City Park in Kirkwood, MO.

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  • 09/05/2023

    Mary. Sorry for your lost. Our deepest sympathy. Carlos and Debbie Moreno


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    Chris Heupel sent Peace & Serenity Dishgarden for David Robert Frei - 09/06/2023

    Thinking of you as you celebrate David's life. He was an inspiration to many and was a joy to be around. He will be missed. May he live on in your heart. Chris & Michelle Heupel

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    Robert Arnold sent The Peace Lily for David Robert Frei - 09/06/2023

    Our deepest sympathies on the loss of such a wonderful man! He was a fierce competitor, and an overall great human being. He will be missed, thoughts and prayers. Bob and DRJ Racing Team!

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    Chaney Windows and Doors sent Ocean Devotion for David Robert Frei - 09/05/2023

    Mary, I just wanted you to know I am thinking about you in this time of loss. You were always very supportive of my business and I greatly appreciated that. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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